Wednesday, January 6, 2010

My biggest and best piece of advice for anyone anywhere because I am a genius

Man, I am a blog writing machine today!  How lucky for all of my 16 readers.

So, it seems that this year is the year that I'm going to be sharing everything that pops into my head and disguising it as pearls of wisdom that will be to the benefit of all mankind.

The final lesson of today comes from a conversation I had with a friend of mine over lunch.  I'm not going to go into a lot of detail because it's her personal business but, in a nutshell, she met this awesome guy over the holidays and she's trying to make a big decision about her future.  She asked me what I thought she should do.

"Do it, " I said, without hesitation.  Don't think the crap out of it.  If the thought of it makes you excited and happy, do it.  Don't look back.

I would describe myself as sort of a risk taker sometimes.  Most of the times.  I left home to teach English in Chile for 9 months without any money.  I brought home a Chilean man and married him shortly after.  I moved across the country without a job.  I get excited about things and move too fast and fall too hard for people without necessarily thinking about all the consequences.  Did all of those things turn out the way I wanted them to?  No.  Do I get hurt sometimes?  Absolutely.  But do I regret the things that I did?  Never.

For all the risky things I've done in my life and all the choices I've made, I could have asked myself, "What if this doesn't work out?"  But instead I asked myself, "What if I didn't take the chance."  And that, to me, is actually living life instead of just watching it pass you by.  I will always be able to move on and start over and recover from a broken heart but, so far, I haven't quite figured out how to go back in time because I wished I would have taken a chance.  And, so far, I've never wanted to.

I hope my friend does what makes her happy and excited.  If not for her sake, then for mine.  Because potentially she could be moving to somewhere tropical and I would get to go visit her.  I guess the real lesson here is, "Do things that benefit me."

I think my job here is done.



Billie Rock said...

Agreed. However this type of lifestyle definately comes with more pain and heartbreak. But living is feeling both the good and the bad: strongly, deeply, passionately.

notquiteawake said...

Well said Billie.

May-B said...

Seriously, I think you're both giving out words of wisdom! Nice.

I don't have any. Unless it's "don't fart in an enclosed space".

notquiteawake said...

Also well said.

tee said...

I don't have any words of wisdom, but my sister has a rule to live by that I also follow...DPABH..."Don't Poop Anywhere But Home"...and while certain instances necessitate exceptions (i.e. overseas travel), in general I think this is a pretty good rule. I don't think you'll see it on a fridge magnet or coffee cup though...

And in an apropos twist: my word verification is "tackyu"...indeed, tacky me.