Monday, June 8, 2009

Taking a break

So.   I remember reading  a blog once, and I forget which one it was, and the woman had written something about breastfeeding that another woman blogger disagreed with and there was this huge blog war with comments and posts and the like and it ended with one woman shutting down her blog.  Or something.  And I remember thinking, wow, that is some crazy shit going on there I'm glad that I don't write things that are that offensive to some people.  And then I did.  And, I mean, obviously I don't have enough readers to cause something on a comparable scale, but I did offend, not just random people which is bad enough, but also people I consider my friends.  And it's carried on past my comments and responses to the comments and, frankly, it's a bit disconcerting to know that people are reading what I wrote who don't  have any background on me from which to base their judgments.

People that know me know that a lot of the things I write here don't necessarily accurately represent who I am and that's why I say some of the things that I do.  I keep forgetting that people read my blog who don't know me at all and the last thing I want is to come across as someone who is discriminatory in any way.   Because I'm not.  At all.  I consider myself very open minded and fair.

To write about your life and opinions for all to see, you need to develop quite a thick skin and this is something I haven't fully managed to do yet. I figure my choices are either keep writing like I am and learn to take criticism, censor myself a bit and play it safe or, I guess, stop completely. 

I think I need to take a little break and decide what to do so, don't be scared if I don't post for a while, I'm not dead.


May-B said...

Sucks. Sorry.

Anonymous said...

I understand where you're coming from, and it's pretty much b.s. that something that is supposed to be fun turns into some ridiculous stressor, but I hope you don't quit- you're too funny.

It's pretty much impossible to not offend someone every now and then when you write something down, especially if it's humorous.

I would just chalk this up to a "whoops, my bad" moment and then leave it up to them to get past it. You can't be responsible for someone else's emotional baggage. I'm not saying this to be mean or dismissive, I just think it's the truth.

Working From Home Today said...

Hon, you made us all think a little. That's never a bad thing.

Anonymous said...

I agree with Imnotbenny and Working From Home.

Plus, it opened up great dialogue about the issue.

Anonymous said...

wow, i can't even figure out which post could have been the problem. Could it really have been that bad?

notquiteawake said...

Anonymous: You can't find it because I deleted it. I decided proving a point wasn't really worth feeling like shit.

To everyone: Thanks for your comments! I've decided to still blog because, regardless of issues that I will probably always encounter, I still really enjoy it. I'm just going to be more careful. Though still probably offensive. "Carefully offensive", if you will.
So, rejoice.

Schmutzie said...

I'm so glad that you're not taking a break. Ignore drama. Write, enjoy yourself, keep being awesome.